Every female has a different idea in her head about what her ideal man should be like. I would like to give you mine, so you can compare. In the end, you will find that we mostly want the same things, and yet it is so difficult to find that one man that has almost all of the traits we desire. I think the reason for this is that we miscommunicate, we build walls and we are too scared to say what we want. Know what you want and say it.
Here is my picture of the man I would like to marry.
Don’t stop writing me those soppy love notes or send me flowers to my office when I least expect it. Plan special getaways to spend without the kids even on days that are not special days like birthdays and wedding anniversaries. Just any day, because we can. Tell me that I am your Baby, that I am special and that I am the one that makes you a better person.
Let Me Know You’re Thinking of Me
Sending me a text message or calling me in the middle of a busy day gives me an enormous feeling of belonging. It makes me feels treasured, cherished and loved.
Talk it Out
Talk things out with me. Be direct and say what you mean. If we communicate, we can solve any problems and misunderstandings and I will know exactly what is expected of me.
I’ll devote my experience, talents, love and time to you. I want to feel appreciated, even if it is just a little thing that I have done especially for you, tell me you appreciate it. I want to feel wanted and needed. Tell me that what I do for you, matters. You are a blessing to me, I want to feel like I am a blessing to you too.
A Little PDA Please
Occasionally I’d like you to kiss me, to hold my hand or put an arm around my shoulder in public. This shows that you are proud to be with me, especially if you do this in front of your guy friends. I want you to be proud of me. I want others to know. Tell your friends that you love me and that I am the best person you could have ever chosen as your wife.
Ask Me to Get Dressed Up and Take Me Out on a Date
Give me the opportunity to dress up and get my girlie girl act on. This way you will remember why you fell for me in the first place. Feeling desirable and sexy is always important to a woman, and inviting me out on a date is one of the easiest and best ways to show me that you are still as attracted to me as the first time I dressed up to go on a date with you.
Treat me like a lady
When we go somewhere I would like you to open the car door for me, take my elbow when we go up the stairs, carry my bags and pay for my meals. Your payback for this behavior is tenfold. Treat me as your queen.
Look after yourself
Keep your nails clean, tidy up your hair, eat healthy and exercise. There is nothing nicer than a man who takes care of his body, smells nice and dresses with a style that goes comfortably with his personality.
Make time for us
Book a place for us to be alone, or take the kids to Grandma’s so we can spend a night alone where we can talk, and spend quality time without interruptions or rushed conversations.
Do “manly” things
Mow the lawn, do the hotel bookings, take charge, be a man, sort out the problems with my phone and get my car serviced. I don’t want to do everything, I want to feel that you don’t mind to do those things for me. Show me your muscle power when I need help with the heavy stuff. Be assured that I will be doing my half of things around the house if you do.
Give me security
I want to feel that you can provide for me, protect me and look after me. I will work and do my share, but it will be nice to know that my husband can take control, take the lead and take charge as the head of the household. Be my man!
Be nice and be happy
Be nice to me, my kids and other people, even strangers. There is nothing quite as alluring as a nice man with a happy smile for all to see.
Tell me I am beautiful
Never stop telling me I look beautiful, especially if I have gone through a lot of trouble painting my nails and doing my hair. There is nothing that will pay dividends like a “you smell nice” or a “you look pretty” comment.
Take pictures of me
Make me feel that you want to capture this moment with me for ever and ever. Take out your camera and snap some pics of me and of us together. Make me feel special by taking the time to make this moment last. Keep the best photo in your wallet so you can be reminded of us often.
Let me wear your clothes
There is nothing nicer than wearing your clothes. It feels like you are wrapped around me and so close. I want to wear one of your oversized t-shirts that smell like your aftershave and I want to wear your white shirt around the house when we are alone. Let me be. After all, I love you.
“Out of 7 continents, 192 countries, 2,469,501 cities and 6,852,472,823 people in the entire world I found you.”